Surrogacy for gay couples can help men start or build their families
The Southern California Center for Reproductive Medicine is a proud supporter of the LGBTQ community. One of the ways in which Robert E. Anderson MD and Don Royster MD, supports the community in his Southern California fertility center is by providing surrogacy as a family-building option for gay couples.
Surrogacy is one of several options available to gay couples to help make their dreams of parenthood come true
When couples ask our Southern California fertility center about surrogacy, Dr. Anderson will outline the steps necessary to achieve a pregnancy. Gestational surrogacy requires two different women for an IVF cycle—one who is the egg donor and the other who is the surrogate. The donor eggs are fertilized by the one of the father’s sperm using in vitro fertilization, IVF. A resulting embryo is transferred into the surrogate’s uterus. After the surrogate gives birth to the baby, she gives the child to the couple. The baby is not related to the surrogate at all.
Gay couples can select someone they know to be their surrogate or they can go through a surrogacy agency
After reviewing the steps to surrogacy, Dr Anderson will explain how patients of our Southern California fertility center can find a surrogate.
- Gay couples can ask a family member or friend to serve as a surrogate. According to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, certain family members can serve as surrogates. The only exception is when the biological parents of the baby are first-degree relatives, such as siblings.
- Surrogacy agencies are another popular option. This is especially true if a gay couple cannot find a family member or friend to serve as a surrogate. Surrogacy agencies make surrogacy easier for couples by assisting them in finding a surrogate and making any necessary surrogacy arrangements.
When selecting a surrogate, Dr Anderson offers suggestions to make the surrogacy process proceed as smoothly as possible.
- The surrogate should be at least 21 years old. She should have already carried a pregnancy and given birth at least once. This positions the surrogate to fully understand the physical and emotional demands of pregnancy and delivery.
- The surrogate should have a medical evaluation to make sure that she is able to carry a pregnancy and deliver a baby.
- The surrogate should have a psychological screening. Part of this screening is to look for any issues that could make it difficult for her to put the baby up for adoption.
- The surrogate should sign a contract which outlines her responsibilities as a surrogate. Most importantly, the contract should state that she is willing to release the baby to its intended parents after it is born. For this reason, it’s important to hire an attorney who understands your state’s laws regarding reproductive rights.
If you would like more information about surrogacy as a family-building option for gay couples, please contact the Southern California Center for Reproductive Medicine.